Status of women in our society
Series: Da Aman Awaz
Topic: Status of women in our society
Guest # 1: Dr Dost Muhammad (Column writer, Professor, Director of Sheikh Zahid Islamic Center of Peshawar University).
Field Story No1: Honor killing in Pakhtun society.
(Salman Ahmad- Peshawar)
Field Story No2: Women did not get their right in inheritance in Pakhtun society
(Kamran Afridi- Khyber Agency)
Anchor Person: Shams Mohmand
Shams Mohmand: Please tell us that if the current status of women in our society is appropriate according to our religion and new era?
Dr Dost Muhammad: We are divided in two extreme positions. In some cases we did not give the rights of women to them, and in some cases we give much more rights to them, that they are over-loaded due to responsibilities. The first woman of this world was Hawa Bibi, and she is the mother of whole world human being. She was sent on the earth and in the area of Jeddah of Saudi Arabia. Jeddah means mother, so thatâs why that place named Jeddah. Adam AS was sent to Sri Lanka area. Hawa Bibi was made by Allah for the relaxation of Adam AS. But in some religions like Christianity, and Jewish it is said that Hawa Bibi forced Adam AS to eat that plant for which he was sent to the earth and got out from the heaven. So in those religions it is mentioned in their Holy Books that female is sinful by birth. Before the arrival of Islam the condition of women was pitiable.
Shams Mohmand: Please tell us the current situation of female in Pakhtun society?
Dr Dost Muhammad: The complete Pakhtun nation was converted to Islam, so we should follow the basic sayings of Islam. Females have four types of basic relations, that she would be your mother, wife, sister, and daughter. So everyone should make a relationship of respect, love, education and law with a woman in his home. The basic right of females is education as Hazrat Muhammad SAW said;
âSeeking education is compulsory for all Muslimsâ (Muslim males and females)
So no one can deny the right of education of females. It is not only the responsibility of the parents to send their daughters to the schools, but it is also the responsibility of the government to provide facilities of education to the females, and also make some laws for it. That female education should be made compulsory for all till Matric in the laws. When a girl does Matric then her age is approximately 16 to 17 years, so the parents get her married. Which is wrong and so many problems arise due to early age marriages and doctors and psychologists identified them. She is overburdened due to so many responsibilities and become a teenage mother. Till 18 years she is a child, as the age for ID card is 18 years. Moreover we should never think the girls inferiors. When a boy born then we do firing and show our happiness, but when a girl born, then the people show their sadness. As before the arrival of Islam, the non Muslims were doing this. But in Islam daughters are the blessing. An educated and kind daughter is more careful for her parents than the son even after getting marriage. We often did not ask about the consent of the girls for their marriage, as we consider it against our honor. But is the Sunnah of our Holy Prophet PBUH. He has four daughters named Hazrat Ruqqaia, Hazrat Um-e-Kulsoon, Hazrat Zainab and Hazrat Fatima, and he asked for the consent of his daughters for their marriage. When the proposal of Hazrat Ali RA proposal brought for Hazrat Fatima, then Hazrat Muhammad SAW said that âgive me some time so that I could ask for the consent of my daughterâ.
Shams Mohmand: We did not ask for the consent of the girls for their marriage, and when they choose a life partner of their choice, for which our religion and law permits. Then in such situations those girls were killed and itâs called honor killing.
Salman Ahmad: Our religion and law did not allow us for honor killing, and no other religion allows its followers for it, but many people were killed in Pakhtun society for honor. Whether it is the lack of awareness or the doubt in the mind?
Maulana Ashraf Ali: No one is allowed to kill someone even if the case is proved for illicit relations, as there is law for it. Honor killing is not there in any religion.
Salman Ahmad: According to Human Rights Commission report, in 2012 there were 69 cases of honor killings. Comparatively this crime has increased in the current year.
Jalal Hussain: (Council member of the Human rights commission) Honor killing is a murder technically. It is prosecuted same as the murder case. But if the family members of the deceased were involved in it then they may take some benefits from the Pakistan Penal Court, like waver of the right of Qisas, but the court has its powers and court can convict the killer more than for fourteen years.
Salman Ahmad: Honor killing is a big crime but in major cases the killer did not get punished. People said that the weak FIR of the police is responsible for this.
Bashir Daad Khan: (Police Officer) We always need one witness of the case, but the brothers and fathers of the females did not file the report. So the police file the report and police become the witness of the case. But in court no one comes as a witness of the case, and the court did not have any option and free the offender. If there is any witness of the case the offender will definitely face the punishment.
Salman Ahmad: According to international human rights and Quran, males and females have the same rights. But the females became the victim of honor killing in Pakhtun society and the males did not face any punishment for this.
Female Respondent: In our society the females were killed for property, or if someone refuse the proposal of marriage or if someone wanted to get second marriage. Then the male kills the female and call it the honor killing.
Salman Ahmad: In Pakistan so many NGOs working for the rights of woman and human rights, but still the ratio of such crimes is high.
Kashif Kamal: (Official of a women's rights organization) People are not aware about their rights and responsibilities. So the civil society should aware the people for their rights and the people should give the rights of females to them.
Salman Ahmad: Although there are laws for the punishment of honor killing, but there is no implementation of it. Strict laws should be made to control this crime.
(Salman Ahmad- CRSS, Peshawar)
Shams Mohmand: Please tell us about the status of honor killing in Islam and law?
Dr Dost Muhammad: We often did not take care of justice (adal) in or daily life. If there is equality in our life then the life is good. According to Quran and Sunnah, no one is allowed to kill someone but only in four situations. Firstly if someone is the killer of an innocent person, and if someone is married but had illicit relations and there are four witnesses for it. But that will be done by the court. There are some reasons for honor killing that we did not ask for the consent of bride for her marriage. For this I would like to tell you the story of the era of Hazrat Muhammad SAW. In some areas the nikkah is done in the childhood and very early age. There is a concept of âKhiaral Balooghâ in which the choice of bride and groom must be considered. In some cases girls whose nikkah was made in the early age, and when they grown up, then they shown their reluctance for that nikkah. Their husbands asked for the request to Hazrat Muhammad SAW to keep that nikkah. Hazrat Muhammad SAW requested the girls that the males did not want the dissolution of this nikkah. Girls replied, Hazrat Muhammad; whether it is your order or advice, Hazrat Muhammad said I cannot order for this, as itâs your own life and you have a complete right for this. Then those girls said that we donât want to continue this nikkah. Hazrat Muhammad dissolved those nikkahs. So the parents did not take the consent and in some cases the girls run away from their homes as a reaction, and that cause a disgrace for their family. I would say this to all the girls, that no one is as much their well wisher as their own parents. So if the girls accept the decision of their parents then Allah will bless them. But if the girls' understanding is developed somewhere and they wanted to get married that person. This matter must be discussed with the whole family then the results will be positive. Besides laws, and religion there are also strict customs in our society.
Shams Mohmand: I would say that if the person with whom the girl wanted to get marry is not appropriate person, even then the parents should get her married with him. It would not cause the disgrace for the family. The girl may get known about her wrong decision after her marriage.
Dr Dost Muhammad: I often observe in the society that love marriages often fail, as in love marriages the decisions were made on emotional basis.
Shams Mohmand: Please tell us about the part of woman in inheritance that whether they will demand for their part?
Dr Dost Muhammad: After education and consent of bride for her marriage, the third important right of the female is her specific part in inheritance, which is defined in Quran and Sunnah. But in Pakhtun society no part is given to the female in inheritance. We are violating the sayings of Allah only for some money. It is just like the social killing of the female and for this she will be asked at the day of judgment that who killed you socially and why? In our society the females cannot demand for their part as their brothers say that if you demand for inheritance then our relation will be finished. The females must demand for their right.
Kamran Afridi: In Khyber Agency no part is given to the females in inheritance. As here is no tradition of it.
Ahmad Noor: (Bara) Here is no tradition of giving part to the females in inheritance. Moreover in many cases the exchange marriages takes place, so both husbands of the females did not give the part of females in the inheritance.
Kamran Afridi: There are many strict traditions of the tribal areas, and the eradication of those traditions is very difficult. It is also a tradition of this area that the people did not give the part in the inheritance to the females.
Imtiaz: (Jamrud) Our parents got married and our mother did not take their part in inheritance. We got married our sisters but they never demand for their right in inheritance. We wanted to give the part of our sisters to them, but they did not want to take it.
Kamran Afridi: Another local person said;
Noor Hallem: (Teacher) We did not give the part to the females in the inheritance because even after marriage we did not separate our sisters from us and take care of them and their children. We also provide assistance to them in their tough times.
Kamran Afridi: A student said that we must give the right of inheritance to females.
Arif: (Student of Peshawar University) In the past people were not giving the part to the females in inheritance but now we should not think about these wrong thoughts and must the rights of females to them.
(Kamran Afridi- CRSS, Khyber Agency)
Shams Mohmand: It is clearly mentioned in the article-25A of our constitution that the rights of female should be given to them, but the females are not aware about their rights. Whether our religious leaders are playing their role for this?
Dr Dost Muhammad: Our religious leaders must play their role as our mosques are the great centers of education. If someone did not give the right of the females to them in inheritance, then he is eating the right of his sister which is prohibited in Islam. Until the female give it by self. Another person said in report that we did not give the part of sisters in inheritance because we take care of them. That is a charity according to Islam. He must give the part of female to her in inheritance.
Caller # 1: (Najib- Peshawar) If we give the charity to the sisters, then is it right?
Dr Dost Muhammad: If your relatives and sisters are facing the financial hardships and in trouble then you can help her and that will be a charity for you. Even if a sister becomes widow and she come back to home of her father and her brother and father provide assistance to her, then itâs called charity. Hazrat Muhammad SAW called charity as âRadd-ul-Balaâ as it saves us from troubles. Moreover people said that the sisters did not demand for their right of property. So the reason is that they are often afraid, so the brother should give their part of inheritance to them. If he donât want to give the land, then they can pay its price to their sisters.
Caller # 2: (Fazal Hussain- Pishtakhara) My grandfather and his two sisters have some property, but his two sisters were unmarried and after their death, the property was inherited to my grandfather. After his death my uncles took the property and he is not giving the part of my mother and my aunts to them.
Dr Dost Muhammad: His uncle is violating the sayings of Quran and Sunnah. And it is prohibited for him. They can take it through court. The Hazrat Muhammad SAW said; "Do you know who is bankrupt? They (the Companions of the Holy Prophet) said: A bankrupt man amongst us is one who has neither dirham with him nor wealth. He (the Holy Prophet) said: The bankrupt of my community would be he who would come on the Day of Resurrection with prayers and fasts and Zakat but (he would find himself bankrupt on that day as he would have exhausted his funds of virtues) since he hurled abuses upon others, brought calumny against others and unlawfully consumed the wealth of others and shed the blood of others and beat others, and his virtues would be credited to the account of those who suffered at his hand. And if his good deeds fall short to clear the account, then the sins of those who suffered at his hand would be entered in his account and he would be thrown in the Hell-Fire"
Caller # 3: (Abdullah- Peshawar) My sister said that she did not need the land, but she need money. Whether we can give her more money than the price of her part?
Dr Dost Muhammad: It is very good that if they give some extra money to their sister, as the price of her part of property is her right and extra money is charity.
Shams Mohmand: There is a saying that âfor female there is a home or a graveâ, so whether there are some limitations for females in Islam who are doing jobs?
Dr Dost Muhammad: Some sayings of the Pashto language are not according to Islam, so those girls who get education they may do some jobs, and do something better. But they should take care of their values.
Shams Mohmand: Stay Blessed, Good Bye.
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